What women really want
This article is aimed to educate people on how to be really successful with women and also to remove the misconceptions which guys have about women and to give them a brief idea about what to do and what not do in various situations.
Those who know me personally would think that "I should be the last person to instruct others about women", since I've never had any success with women. Yeah they are quite correct? On the other hand ," Being a failure in my personal relationship with women, I strongly believe that I do have some real knowledge in this aspect, largely due to the fact of having learnt things by experience.
So, I would like to share some of them with others , sincerely hoping that it can be of some help to others in their personal life.Being an unsuccessful person myself, " I certainly know what not to do when dealing with women" due to my personal experience. What I have understood is "The way in which I did things and or how I reacted during different various situations, when I was involved in a relationship, should not have been done that way, and all that I thought correct at that time and the decisions which I took during those situations, proved to be absolutely false, eventually getting me nowhere in the relationship.
So, looking at it in the positive side, I would like to put some of my thoughts and experiences in a nutshell, so that others can ensure that they don't do the same mistake as I did, when they encounter these situations in their personal life. Now do you agree with me? Come Let's get started….
You've heard this everywhere
"Women are really mysterious and Nobody in this world has ever found know what's Inside a women's heart".
Generally speaking this is absolutely true, but when you know how not to screw up situations, you can easily uncover the secrets (emotions/feelings) which women normally do not expose to others (especially guys) and can make them feel really attracted towards you.
APPEARANCES ARE DECEPTIVE:
The above saying is absolutely correct, Never try to judge people (women in particular) just by their appearance, since they are actually the other way of what you think they are… Got It. Attraction is a type of feeling or in other words a Force which you can never induce, unless you understand what it is and how it actually works, It's more of a mind game and there isn't any other way by which you can make them feel attracted towards you.
Normally, things which guys do to attract women are actually working against their success and It has to be done the other way around.
Face is the Index of the mind: Always remember this saying when it comes to women. Just by looking at your face one can find out what sort of emotional state you are in (happy or sad).. I am sure you might have guessed what I am going to say next…. When it comes to dealing with women, Your face should not be an Index of your mind.
Women generally are masters in this art. They really know how to hide their emotions but poor guys are actually the other way around. Men generally let their feelings of their heart being reflected in their face. Men are too much predictable, just by looking at a guy's face one can come to a conclusion as to what sort of a mental state that the guy is in, at a given moment. If a guy seems too much predictable, then 9 out of 10 times you are out of the race.
Let me explain about this in detail: Let say you see a very pretty girl somewhere, At the next moment what a regular guy does is to start staring at her there by conveying his mind that he is very much interested in her. This is the biggest mistake which a guy does, your face should not the convey the message of what's in your heart This is not what a woman wants in a guy.
You must never allow women to come to conclusions about you, but must keep them guessing and wonder as to what sort of a person you are, If you can do this correctly then you are surely on your road towards success.
Your best friend can be your worst enemy
Try to approach women directly rather than through a friend of your's or her's. What this actually does is It makes them think that you are person who lacks confidence and they feel that you are a weak guy, who does not even have the courage to stand in front of a women and express his heart to her.
Girls don't like guys who are less confident.I agree, It's quite hard to directly approach a women but there's no other way out.Even though you are not very confident at least try to act as a confident person (not over confident) . Don't over do this since it can also work the other way around.
Playing safe does not work with women. If you play safe by approaching a girl through others, in order to avoid facing the bitter experience, incase of being rejected by her, believe me, you are actually making the situation it more bitter and thereby making life miserable.
Instead, If you learn to accept things, situations as they are, you can peacefully get on with life. So,be brave and prepare yourself to accept what ever the result may be. Doing so, you can at least get on with other things in life, if you know that she isn't interested in you. If you try to avoid facing bitter situations in life, you are only postponing the problem to some other day but surely you would have to face the music some day or the other, so be bold and take the direct approach.
Being a Mr. Nice Guy
Have you ever come across a situation in which you see a beautiful and attractive girl dating a Guy who is anything but good looking and also is in no way a match to this girl .
I am sure you must have encountered this scenario time and again. On the other hand you may feel that you would be a perfect match for this girl in all aspects, whether it is with looks, personality, sharing common interests and the one who could do anything to keep her happy.
Even though you being such a nice person having all these traits you only find that the girl isn't attracted to you at all and what ever you tried to create the attraction have all ended up in vain. We have all been taught by our parents and teacher's to be nice and to do good to everyone.
But when it comes to women the truth is "They Are Never Attracted To Nice Guys".
This may sound a bit harsh but that's how it is when it comes to women. Does this mean you need to become a rogue to make her feel attracted to you? Not at all. All that you need to do is stop acting nice to women. Being nice here I mean, saying yes to whatever she says and accepting each and everything she does, and trying not to rub her on the wrong side but trying to keep her happy all the time. If you are this type of a guy, then I am sorry mate, you are surely out of the game.
Women are very mysterious and sometimes they don't make sense at all.
Always remember this saying "Opposites Values Are Complimentary".
Normally what a guy does is surely in sync with the thoughts which he has in his mind. But with women, It is exactly the other way around. Do you get me? I mean "If a girl says yes to something it is not that she feels the same in heart. For example,if a Girl says that "I don't like you", it isn't necessary that she does not like you or have a liking for you.
This is what I meant "some times they make no sense at all ". If they say "Yes" it means "No" and If they say "No" it means "Yes". Strange, but that's how they are.
Would you believe If I say that most women love being teased and being dominated by men. Trust me, it is a fact which most women would never be willing to accept. This is a secret deep rooted inside their heart but they never expose it at all and try to act exactly in the opposite manner.
They want real guy who could find out this secret desire and do exactly to satisfy her wish and there by making her happy. They surely don't want a guy who can just do according to her instructions, anyone can do this and this is not all they need, what they want is a guy who really understands' their feelings and can do things, without even waiting for her to ask for it….
Women always love guys who pose a real challenge to them,guys, trying to get the upper hand over them. They really don't like a guy who is really nice and is always on the affirmative. They need a person who always tries to get the better of them and who does not accept all of their views and actions. Shocking right? Believe me this is 100 % true with them.
Every day they have seen so many of these nice guys who could do anything for them, what they actually want is some real fun and adventure in their life, which can only be provided by guys who are a real challenge to them. All that you need is to be confident or at least try to project yourself as a bold and confident person, and not as a weak and powerless person.
The rule of the thumb is "Never be predictable" when it comes to women, that is,don't allow them to come to any conclusions about you and always keep them guessing as to what you would do or how you would react about something or the other. Always remember that you don't need to be Tom Cruise in good looks or a rich person like Bill Gates.
Women will accept you even though you don't look good or even if you are not rich, however, they will surely not accept a guy who is not courageous even though he has the good looks and all other personality traits.
Remember, "Confidence Is The Key"If you don't screw up during situations which I had mentioned earlier, you can really understand how attraction actually works, and can master this art thereby becoming extremely successful when it comes to relationships with women.